At first glance, it seems that each family is unique - with its own habits, characters, rhythm of life. However, if you look more closely, you can find surprising similarities between truly happy couples. Scientists and psychologists from different countries for many years have tried to identify patterns that can predict whether the union will be stable. And it turns out that some principles are indeed repeated in every harmonious family.
The first thing that experts have paid attention to is the presence of family rituals. It is not about strict rules, but about warm habits that create a sense of coziness and predictability. Simple gestures like eating breakfast together on Sundays, going for walks in the evening or a certain way of celebrating birthdays turn out to be much more important than it may seem. The main condition is that all family members should be involved in these rituals with pleasure and not out of a sense of duty.
An equally important aspect is eating together. This is not just a moment of satiation, but an opportunity to establish contact, to hear each other, to feel belonging to the whole. Psychologists recommend getting together for dinner at least a few times a week, turning off the TV and putting away the phones. Such evenings help to feel supported and maintain emotional closeness even in difficult times.
Interesting data provided and British scientists who studied the impact of differences in age, education and past experience on the stability of marriage. It turned out that couples where the husband is slightly older tend to be more stable. Also interestingly, women with higher levels of education are more likely to be happily married, especially if the husband is respectful. But remarriages with both spouses are often less stable.
Special attention is paid to the opinion of children. It is they, more than anyone else, feel the atmosphere in the house. According to the results of one of the studies, children who grew up in happy families were most often raised in complete families, where both parents spent a lot of time at home. The presence of at least two children, creative activities of parents and their active participation in the life of the child - all this unites families where harmony reigns.
And, finally, we should not forget about the general mood. In happy families, partners know how to see the best in each other, support endeavors and develop common things. Not only joint activities are important here, but also sincere respect for personal space, hobbies and dreams of everyone. It is this balance between “we” and “I” that allows building a long and strong relationship where everyone feels in his or her place.
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