Why a baby fights: what parents should do

All children are born to grow up angels. Alas, from this illusion, many mothers have to get rid of this illusion in the first year of life, when the baby begins to fight. Our children are born with a full range of emotions: they can heartily rejoice, sad and even angry. And that's okay. After all, we all come into this world to become better. And every little person has his whole life ahead of him. But this does not mean that the child's desire to hit mom or dad, to bite another kid can be left without attention. Here are five basic rules of parental behavior in such a situation.

Rule one: look for the cause.

As practice shows, children who are often punished, suppressed are prone to aggression. The desire to hit someone is, in fact, a categorical protest of the baby against parental "terror". Think: is not it time to radically change the tactics of upbringing crumbs?

Rule two: distracting maneuver.

Notice the approaching anger of the baby? Do not let him "release the tiger" - distract at this point something interesting. Offer, for example, to play a favorite game. The habit of getting angry, like any habit, has several stages of "maturation": first, it is almost an accidental reaction to what is happening, then - not constant, but a characteristic manner of behavior and, finally, what we call almost inherited trait of character. Do not let the baby "ingrained" his habit!

Rule three: stop aggression gently.

If the desire to spill aggression outward could not be prevented, try to stop him in the development. Get down on the same level with the child and hug it - not squeeze, but exactly hug, so that the crumb felt coming from the mother's feeling of love for him. Tell the baby that you understand him: "You do not want Sasha to take your toys? I understand you." It is very important that the child feels that he is heard and understood, because the purpose of his aggression is to make everyone accept his feelings.

Rule four: never punish a child during aggression!

This is completely pointless: like adults, children, embraced by anger, lose the ability to understand what is good and what is bad. And suppressed by force aggression is not dissolved, and lurks to break out soon with renewed vigor.

Rule five: love baby, even when he is angry.

As light always defeats darkness, so love without a trace dissolves even a very strong child anger.