Candor and communication in intimate life

In the intimate sphere, many face the difficulty of openly discussing their desires and preferences. This can cause fear and embarrassment, especially when it comes to personal and sensitive issues such as stimulation and technique. However, the key to improving your sex life is to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Experts such as family psychotherapist Doxy Easton and sexuality expert Catherine A. Leaf argue that the best way to achieve sex is simply by expressing your needs and desires.

Practical exercise to improve sexual communication
One of the effective methods to overcome awkwardness and enhance sexual communication is a special exercise proposed by Catherine A. Leaf. It involves creating and analyzing lists of preferences and desires. First, choose a loved one with whom you are willing to do this exercise. Together, make lists of actions and techniques that you might like in bed. This will help you not only expand your vocabulary, but also understand your desires.

Preference list and its structure
Create two lists: one for your own preferences and the other for what you want to try. In each list, divide the items into three categories: «YES», «NO» and «MAY BE». In the column «YES» indicate everything you like and what you are willing to do. In the column «NO» - everything that does not suit you. In the «MAY BE» column, write down options you are willing to try under special conditions, for example, in a quiet environment or if you will be highly aroused.

Discussion and implementation
After you have compiled your lists, discuss them with the partner. This will help you understand which actions and techniques are of interest to both of you, and which ones should be excluded. You will be pleasantly surprised how much easier the communication becomes after you have outlined your preferences and learn about the partner’s wishes.