The secret of a strong relationship: write down quarrels for harmony

It turns out that sometimes minimal effort is enough to achieve impressive results in family relationships. Psychologists recommend that couples at least once a year write down absolutely all quarrels with their partners. Although the idea may seem unusual, experiments confirm the effectiveness of this method.

In a two-year experiment conducted by Eli Finkel with 120 married couples, it turned out that those who periodically wrote down the details of their quarrels felt much better and had a higher level of trust. Writing short essays about conflicts took only 20 minutes. Partners were asked to describe not their emotions but their companion's thoughts during the quarrel, allowing them to evaluate the situation from a new perspective.

This method not only allows for a more informed approach to conflict resolution, but also improves the overall emotional climate in the relationship. Instead of fixating on their own feelings, partners begin to better understand each other's point of view.

It is important to note that despite initial doubts, participants in the experiment reported positive changes in their relationships. This method, although it requires time and the participation of both partners, can be a powerful tool for enhancing mutual understanding and harmony in family life.