How those who have a love triangle live

A love triangle is not a new story. It is as old as humanity itself. Many cultures condemn it, religions strictly forbid it, and public opinion is most often on the side of the “right” couple. Nevertheless, life often makes its corrections, and in reality, the third in the relationship appears much more often than it is customary to say out loud. Statistics are also inexorable - from 3 to 15% of couples at least once in their lives resorted to “love threesome” in one form or another.

The story of Vlad, Svetlana and Natasha is a classic illustration of such a triangle. Vlad lives on two houses: in one - his wife and children, in the other - a woman whom he also loves. Svetlana knows everything and suffers in silence. Natasha does not demand anything, but feels loneliness every evening when he leaves. None of the women are ready to let him go, and Vlad himself is unable to choose. He does not lie to anyone, but also does not make a step towards a solution. It turns out to be a strange symbiosis of pain, patience and habit. A triangle where each corner pulls on itself, but no one lets go of the other.

There is another type of triangle - without illusions and pain. So, Tatiana left a relationship where her partner was constantly having affairs on the side. She tried to save the family, blamed herself, tried to become a better person. But when she realized that the problem was not in her, she left. And although loneliness - it is hard, but next to her remained the most valuable thing - respect for herself. She does not prove anything to anyone, does not lie to herself and knows the value of her inner peace.

And there are stories in which a love triangle (or even a square!) is not a tragedy, but the choice of conscious people. Anatoly and Oksana could not keep their passion in private. But they found a solution - they invited another couple into their lives, and now they live as a foursome. They are united by interests, sex, habits, everyday life. They don't hide, they don't lie. And although the grandmothers at the entrance can not believe what is happening, they are all inside this union is good. At least for now.

From the point of view of psychology, such configurations of relationships - complex. Love triangle, like any polyamorous forms, requires absolute honesty and high internal maturity. It is very easy to fall into the trap where it seems that everything is “for love”, but in reality it is fear of loneliness, habit or manipulation. If at least one participant suffers, feels jealousy or suppresses themselves - it's not about freedom, it's about pain.

Until a person understands what exactly he is looking for - mental intimacy, bodily pleasure, recognition or the illusion of control - he will wander through these triangles, squares and pentagons. And wonder each time why it hurts again. But if three people are really honest with each other and accept their roles without deception - maybe they really have found their form of happiness. Even if not according to the rules.